Travel Diary 3: Deal with Bullies

When someone exposes our weaknesses, it can be painful and we can quickly feel victimized. We start feeling sorry for ourselves, inadequate, even incompetent. We can start to push people or good common sense away. The more we think about it, the more we become a victim in the sense that our negative emotions take hold and lead us down darker paths.

Instead of being a victim, be present with those raw feelings, whether they are anger, pain or helplessness. Notice them before they hook you into a long storyline of negative thoughts. Take a deep breath and recognize what those emotions feel like in your body. Then let them go and move on with your life. 

How? Hold Gui Ren bag, visualise the pain feeling absorb into the bag and transform to pink light. Than spray tranquillity healing spray

Be a warrior at work:
The Samurai of Japan were attracted to Zen because the teachings and practices of letting go of the self helped them cultivate fearlessness in the face of battle. They knew combat could result in the loss  of their own lives, but if one could learn to let go of attachment to the self, the mind would be sharper in battle. 

When dealing with bullies in the workplace, we try to protect our selves. Our egos suffer when the image of a competent, hard worker is put in jeopardy by a bully who has just pointed out our flaws in public. We panic and cause ourselves more suffering when we fight back with aggression.

When we experience fearlessness, we don't struggle so much. Our minds are not so clouded by confusion and strategizing to preserve the self. This frees our minds to be present with other people, to listen to them, and to gain insight from seeing the situation and the suffering of others more clearly.

Remedies: Healing Trees oil at Yong Quan Xue daily before going work.

Mirror Exercise


People are all mirrors unto each other, and even bullies can be our teachers.

Through a bully, we may learn to see aspects of ourselves that are bullyish. We may see that some of the things the bully has pointed out for us so painfully, may actually be true. A bully can help us see the raw aspects of our selves that we are trying to escape from. none of this justifies bullying behavior, but if you can learn to let go a little bit, and see how the bully manifests bewildered suffering, the bully's grip on you may loosen up.

Whenever u see bullies... touch ur left hand bracelet and say Ommmm when looking at the person with love. Say in ur heart.